That's right - you are not just a body, and your body is not all of you. You are connected to your body in this amazing communion called embodiment. How cool is that?
Now for me (being someone who chose to study Biology and all sorts of other sciences in college -I love to think, analyze and problem solve), and I used to spend a lot of time living in my head and doing what I thought was right, or good, or healthy for me.
However, my body did not always agree with this. And for a LONG TIME, I did not listen to my body's point of view.
I know this sounds crazy, but your body actually has it's own idea of what it likes to eat, what clothes it likes to wear, how it likes to be touched and how much sleep it requires. And these KNOWINGS that your body has, may be very different than what you think or what you read or what your health care providers or society says.
For example, I used to run cross country and long distance for many years and I would get injury after injury... "Hello!" my body was saying "Are you listening???!! I don't like this!" Yet, I kept doing it. I would just take ibuprofen and run through the pain.
Sound crazy? Or maybe you've done something like this?
I also used to have awful stomach cramps and gas and bloating and pain (from the time I was a young child), and I thought that was perfectly normal. I never once had the awareness that maybe my body wasn't happy with something I was eating. Turns out, my body does not like eating dairy or wheat at the moment (at least that's what my body is telling me now and I know that can also change). When I don't eat those things, I have more energy, no stomach issues, clearer and non-itchy skin and no sinus infections!
Have you ever experienced something like that? What if everything that occurs with your body, is just your SMART, AWARE BODY trying to tell you something?
What if you could ask your body more questions and LISTEN to the awareness that you receive? What would that look like?
You can ask things like, "Body -
- what would you like to eat?
- how much sleep do you require?
- would you like to go outside?
- what type of movement do you like?
- what would you like to wear?
- how and where do you like to be touched?
- how often would you like to have sex or be pleasured?
- is that pain/stiffness/intensity even yours, or are you picking it up from someone or something else?
And then pause, and just allow the awareness to pervade your world. Don't let your brain interfere or start telling you all the things you think it SHOULD be doing! Your body doesn't like 'SHOULDS'. Ever notice that?
And also, can you be in allowance that what your body desires? IT can change A LOT! It may even be different every day.
So what does it look like when you start asking your body questions and listening?
That may be different for everyone, but one thing is for sure - your body will be much happier, as will you.
For me, I do yoga, because my body loves the peace, space, and openness it creates. I sleep 5 or 6 hours some nights (and get up and do work or read in the middle of the night) and on other nights, I'll sleep for 10 hours. Most of the time, I wear clothes that feel good on my skin and make my body feel gorgeous (when I don't choose this - my whole body and being feel kind of tired, frumpy, and invisible). Most of the time I eat until I am full (and sometimes that is after A LOT of food and sometimes that's after just a few bites). I choose something to eat that my body practically jumps towards and says YES, That looks YUMMY! And when I don't, I feel icky or too full or tired. I treat my body to more massages, touching, sex, baths, walks, and time in nature AS MUCH AS POSSBILE! I am now creating the time for things that my body truly desires.
I have finally started to get out of my head, listen to what my body would like, and then do it. AND WOW, - what a friggin' difference it makes!! And my body has been SO GRATEFUL.
My body has been with me the whole time, just waiting patiently, taking all of the abuse that I've given it (because anytime you are going against your body and its knowing, that's a form of abuse), and STILL LOVING ME.
How brilliant are our bodies??
Would you like to have more fun with your body? More ease in your body?
Then maybe, play with these questions. Start asking, listening, and see what shows up for you.
I'd love to hear from you - whether you post a comment on this blog or send me an email. How do things change for you when you start to be in communion with your body? What magic begins to show up?
Until then - have fun playing, experimenting, and enjoying this amazing experience of embodiment!
Oh yeah - and some of my most favorite books that have facilitated this change with my body are: "Embodiment - The Manual You Should Have Been Given When You Were Born" by Dr. Dain Heer, "Sex is Not a Four Letter Word but Relationship Often Times Is" by Gary Douglas and Dr. Dain Heer, and "69 Shades of Pleasure" an E-book by Rebecca Hulse and Liam Phillips. And an amazing 30 Day Online Program to get you out of judgment of your body and life by Katherine McIntosh called I'll Have What She's Having.