3 Ways to Get Your Magic Back

So lately I've been having one day where I feel totally great and happy and joyful, and then the next day I feel stuck, limited, heavy, and not like myself.  

I've been having this yo-yo effect from day to day and would much rather have more of the days where I feel amazing! You know the days where you have energy and things make you laugh and everything happens with ease. Would you like to have more of those too?

Have you ever had a time in your life when you felt AMAZING? Maybe you felt your whole body buzzing with joy. Maybe you felt incredibly peaceful and calm. Maybe you felt potent and strong. Maybe you created something or changed something that you thought you couldn't. Maybe you just had a really good day where everything seemed to flow.

Whatever it was for you, do you remember a time where you just felt joyful and LIKE YOU? And from that space you created some pretty cool stuff?

That is the magic that we all truly BE.

We have the ability to create magical possibilities just by being who we are. And being as unique and weird and different as we are.

Did you know the original definition of weird was "of spirit, fate or destiny"?

Yet, do you ever feel like your day to day life is pretty far from magic? Or lacking the brilliance and unqueness and weirdness that you'd like to see? Like you used to be able to create some cool stuff in your life, but not anymore?

Here are some simple things that you can do to get your magic back: (from Dr. Dain Heer and Access Consciousness tools )

1) Every morning you can ask "Universe, show me something beautiful today". It doesn't sound like a question, but it is. What if you could tap into the beauty and abundance of the Earth with that much ease? Hint - it is that easy ;)

2) When you are feeling crappy, limited, heavy, depressed, down on yourself, or just not as awesome as you'd like to feel - ask "Who does this belong to?" If you feel lighter after asking that, or if your body relaxes, IT ISN'T YOURS! 

We are all actually super psychic and aware. 99% of our thoughts, feelings and emotions actually aren't ours. We pick them up from everything and everyone around us.

Sounds wacky right? I thought so too. But if you'd like to play with this tool - give it a try. I'm amazed when I use this myself or see my daughter use this tool and all of the angst or frustration just go away.

So if you feel lighter after asking, you can then follow that with "Return to sender". You don't have to know where it came from or feel bad about giving it back. Returning it to where it came from, allows it to also get cleared from that other person or place or space if they choose.

3) Ask - "If I were truly being the magic I am today, what would I choose right away?" This is not a question that you have to sit and figure out. Don't beat yourself up about not knowing your 'path' or worrying that you're not doing what you 'should' be doing. Follow what feels fun for you and what feel light. Even the Dalai Lama has said - "The purpose of life is to have fun". Agreed!

Open yourself up to the awareness that this question creates. You can go about your day asking questions with wonder and curiosity, and follow what feels like it would create more magic in your life.

Choosing for you, choosing for more magic, choosing for joy and laughter - this is what the planet and all the people on it require to heal.

What can we contribute? Hmm, I wonder what are the infinite possibilities... :)

4 Tools to Let Go of Control Issues (Including Ones About Your Children)

Did you ever have one of those days when everything gets on your nerves?

Especially something your partner does or your child? And you just want to scream? You wish so much that you could control what's going on!!!

What if that actually has nothing to do with the other person? 

What if it is more about what is going on with you? Your stuff? Your internal battles? Your judgments about yourself? Your expectations of how other people should behave?

At the end of the day, we cannot control other people. We cannot control what situations are brought into our worlds. 

Yet, we can control how we choose to respond.


The one thing that you always have is choice. The ability to choose something different. If something isn't working for you, then choose something else. 

You don't have to make yourself wrong for making that choice in the first place.

Guess what? It's actually awesome to make a 'bad decision' because then you can have the awareness of how to choose differently next time.

I used to feel like a 'bad mom' when my daughter was throwing a fit at the store or would not treat someone how I thought they should be treated. I couldn't control it.

I could feel the judgments of other people and how they thought my child should act.

And then there was the judgment of myself - did I do something wrong? Am I bad parent? What is causing her to act like this? Why isn't she acting or doing what she 'should'?


Then guess what I realized? You cannot control anyone else. AND no matter what you choose in life, as a parent or otherwise, someone will always have a point of view about why it is wrong or bad. Or maybe why it is good or perfect.

Either way it sticks you, because it is a judgment. It has nothing to do with your actual awareness of what would work for you.

Trying to control things and make things go 'just right' doesn't leave you any room to know what else is possible.

It squashes your knowing of what choices and path would create the life that you desire.

We all have an inner wisdom and knowing of what works for us. And the cool thing is, we are so connected to our children that we can tap into their inner knowing of what works for them too.

However, we usually don't listen to that.  We often bury our intuition and instead listen to friends, books, parents, or 'experts'. 

I must admit, sometimes it feels easier to give our power over to someone else.

It can seem scary to know how amazing and potent and wise we really are. Because then we have to own up for the choices we've been making. 

But what if that's okay too? What if where you are right now is a great thing because it gives you the awareness of where you'd like to go and what you can change?

You can always choose to change things.

So what if instead of trying to control everything and everyone in your life, you could let it go? 

I know - easier said than done, right?

Well, here are some tools for LETTING THINGS GO with GREAT EASE:

1) Say to yourself or aloud - "All the projections, expectations, separations, judgments, and conclusions that I have about (a person/or thing), I destroy and uncreate them all".

2) You can also destroy and uncreate all the projections, expectations, separations, judgments and conclusions that a person has of you.

3) Ask, "What would it take to claim and own the ability to be out of control?"

4) For some extra umpff, you can add "POC and POD everything that doesn't allow that."

  • This is from the clearing statement from Access Consciousness. It's basically a way to clear all of the places that are keeping you stuck in a situation.  It's energetic, not logical, so it will make no sense to your brain. It's usually the things beneath the surface, and that are energetic, that keep us stuck. You can learn more at www.theclearingstatement.com

As with any tool, just play with what feels light or fun for you and see what changes. I don't have the answers. These are just ideas and tools to work with. Take them into your life and see what works for you.

When you let go of control and choose what works for you (instead of what everyone else thinks) you can start living the amazing life that you desire.

And it is usually far greater than anything you could imagine!

The happiest people, that have the most fun, and change the world, are the ones that choose their own path and choose what works for them.

Only you know.

So Let Go and Choose It!